I had a dream about you. It's been a while since I could remember any of my dreams, and still, this one has left me with such strong impression. Even now, when I am fully awake, your face flashes before my eyes. It's a face I can totally relate to, as if it wasn't any more yours than it is mine. Terrifying thing, you know? I can't say I've felt that sort of intimacy with anyone. For a moment you knew all my secrets, without me even having to tell them. For a moment I even knew them myself…While I was looking into your eyes, I suddenly started to realize things about myself that were unspoken for years, like fragments of my inner life that were deeply repressed. It’s hard to distinguish if they were buried inside because dealing with them was such a dirty work, or if leaving them unnamed meant that it was not possible to define them precisely enough, so they would keep their true meaning. Perhaps, all this life that I've known so far was in fact no more but a dream about living. The only thing that has kept me in touch with reality was you…I know it comes as a surprise, and you may be wondering why it took me so long to come clean. You also may be wondering how come you've never noticed before. I've tricked you on purpose, yes, and you must realize it really has nothing to do with you. It’s always been me. This is why, seeing you in my dream like that, came out as a shock. You also must forgive me. You must forgive me because I know how it looks like, that everything we ever shared was a lie, and it wasn't…I am more of an illusionist that a deceiver, but it all comes from being in fact, a very private person. Even if it was true that you knew me better than anyone, I’d never admit it. I’d rather dig my own heart out, with a rotten spoon, than admitting it. I may let people in my own little world occasionally, but I would never let them be aware of it. I don’t throw my intimacy in front of others, especially when I care. The more I care, the less I give away, and this is something for you to understand, and grant me your forgiveness. I didn't play my tricks on you in order to deceive you, but rather to save myself, and maybe even deceive myself as well. I’ve had hidden my feelings for you so deeply that I've learned to live with them, as if any other casualty. I have done wrong to myself as much as I did to you, and I don’t know if I can forgive myself. So now I wonder, could you forgive me without feeling sorry for me? I certainly don’t deserve your pity. Especially not now that I am awake.

ربما لا تشعر الآن أن الله معك. إلا أن حضور الله لا يعتمد علي مشاعرك. فمشاعرك تتعرض لكل أنواع المؤثرات. وعلي ذلك فلا يمكن الاعتماد عليها. في بعض الأحيان تكون أسوأ نصيحة تحصل عليها هي : "افعل ما بدا لك" بمعني أن تعمل ما تشعر أنه الصواب. إن ما نشعر به غالباً ما لا يكون هو الحقيقي أو هو الصواب قد تكون حالتك المعنوية نتاج الذكريات، أو الهرمونات، أو الأدوية، أو الأطعمة، أو قلة النوم،، أو التوتر، أو المخاوف.كلما بدأت أقلق بشأن أمر ما فإنني أذكر نفسي بأن كلمة خوف fear مكونة في اللغة الانجيليزية من أربعة حروف False Evidence Appearing Real "بمعني "دليل كاذب يبدو حقيقياً

Instructions for Dad.I don't want to go into a fridge at an undertaker's. I want you to keep me at home until the funeral. Please can someone sit with me in case I got lonely? I promise not to scare you.I want to be buried in my butterfly dress, my lilac bra and knicker set and my black zip boots (all still in the suitcase that I packed for Sicily). I also want to wear the bracelet Adam gave me.Don't put make-up on me. It looks stupid on dead people.I do NOT want to be cremated. Cremations pollute the atmosphere with dioxins,k hydrochloric acid, hydrofluoric acid, sulphur dioxide and carbon dioxide. They also have those spooky curtains in crematoriums.I want a biodegradable willow coffin and a woodland burial. The people at the Natural Death Centre helped me pick a site not for from where we live, and they'll help you with all the arrangements.I want a native tree planted on or near my grave. I'd like an oak, but I don't mind a sweet chestnut or even a willow. I want a wooden plaque with my name on. I want wild plants and flowers growing on my grave.I want the service to be simple. Tell Zoey to bring Lauren (if she's born by then). Invite Philippa and her husband Andy (if he wants to come), also James from the hospital (though he might be busy).I don't want anyone who doesn't know my saying anything about me. THe Natural Death Centre people will stay with you, but should also stay out of it. I want the people I love to get up and speak about me, and even if you cry it'll be OK. I want you to say honest things. Say I was a monster if you like, say how I made you all run around after me. If you can think of anything good, say that too! Write it down first, because apparently people often forget what they mean to say at funerals.Don't under any circumstances read that poem by Auden. It's been done to death (ha, ha) and it's too sad. Get someone to read Sonnet 12 by Shakespeare.Music- "Blackbird" by the Beatles. "Plainsong" by The Cure. "Live Like You Were Dying" by Tim McGraw. "All the Trees of the Field Will Clap Their Hands" by Sufian Stevens. There may not be time for all of them, but make sure you play the last one. Zoey helped me choose them and she's got them all on her iPod (it's got speakers if you need to borrow it).Afterwards, go to a pub for lunch. I've got £260 in my savings account and I really want you to use it for that. Really, I mean it-lunch is on me. Make sure you have pudding-sticky toffee, chocolate fudge cake, ice-cream sundae, something really bad for you. Get drunk too if you like (but don't scare Cal). Spend all the money.And after that, when days have gone by, keep an eye out for me. I might write on the steam in the mirror when you're having a bath, or play with the leaves on the apple tree when you're out in the garden. I might slip into a dream.Visit my grave when you can, but don't kick yourself if you can't, or if you move house and it's suddenly too far away. It looks pretty there in the summer (check out the website). You could bring a picnic and sit with me. I'd like that.OK. That's it.I love you.Tessa xxx

...бывают в жизни человека редкие моменты, когда возникает в душе жажда откровенности и речей, хотя после часто и стыдно бывает, особенно когда догадаетесь, что вас слушали без сочувствия. "Эк меня разносило! - думается увлёкшемуся человеку. - Опять, опять не утерпел!.. Зачем было высказываться до таких подробностей? К чему эти вопли, которые не нормальное же моё состояние? Разве первый раз ощутил я прилив этих чувств? Надобно смотреть на других: все спокойны, не увидишь одушевлённого лица - все, как доска, без выражения, не услышишь сильно поднятой ноты в голосе. Мало ли что вчера было больно, нестерпимо, кричать хотелось, а сегодня больно от неумеренного крику". Но напрасно человек заклинает горячее слово и откровенную беседу; когда созреет вопль душевный, радостный или печальный, опять явится откровенность, потому что это закон физилогический и психический, это закон природы. Есть какой-то хмель в откровенности; она одуряет и увлекает; и как рад человек, когда найдёт другого человека и когда он, оглядевшись, уверится, что над его мыслью никто не стоит, запрёт двери - и тут-то польются речи рекой, и тогда именно можно заговориться до охмеления. Поговорить хоть, если нельзя делать; хоть потихоньку, если нельзя вслух. Кто не испытывал этого блаженства речи?..- Н.Г. Помяловский "Мещанское счастье