The role of the therapist is to reflect the being/accepting self that was never allowed to be in the borderline.

Shall we go?' he murmured, perhaps regretting his decision to show me his army of plastic cartoon figurines.

Mind control is built in lies and manipulation of attachment needs.Valerie Sinason, from the Forward of the book

The desire to annoy no one, to harm no one, can equally well be the sign of a just as of an anxious disposition.

I am a lover of what is, not because I'm a spiritual person, but because it hurts when I argue with reality.

We are so made that we can derive intense enjoyment only from a contrast and very little from a state of things.

All we have to do to see is open our eyes and look. As we teach what we learn, I am in essence talking to myself.

Greed harms you: generosity helps you. This is why it has been said: 'Greed is the mother of incapacity'.

All depression has its roots in self-pity, and all self-pity is rooted in people taking themselves too seriously.

Sensation tell us a thing is.Thinking tell us what it is this thing is.Feeling tells us what this thing is to us.

Bakat seakan menjadi tumbal, seolah dengan mudahnya menyalahkan Si Bakat terhadap hal-hal yang tidak mereka kuasai

My God, these Feeling types! ... Sensitive people are just tyrannical people - everybody else has to adapt to them.

We do not escape into philosophy, psychology, and art--we go there to restore our shattered selves into whole ones.

A modern definition of equanimity: cool. This refers to one whose mind remains stable & calm in all situations.

I think she must have lived where all the sad poets live, in that secret place where everything hurts all the time.